I am so upset right now, and don't know what to do. Really there isn't anything I can do, which just makes me more upset. I won't explain what happened, but will leave it at this:
It is something extremely horrible that my brother's STEP daughter has done. Our family has always looked at this kid, as part of our family. Now, I hate her! She has stolen from us, lied, and now lying again to the point that will affect someones life. I don't know if this girl realizes the affect of her lie. This is something she will have to live with her entire life. Living with a lie, that affects someone the way this lie is going to is horrible.
I am just so angry. It shows you the importance of real family, and not outsiders that aren't truly family. Yes, she is a child, or a preteen, but she is a liar, and a thief. Part of the way this girl is, comes from her mother. I have always said "You live what you learn". I always have said that, because of my behavior and things I've learned growing up. Life hasn't always been easy, and it still isn't. But my family, who isn't perfect, has always been there for me. My father and I never really got along great, our personalities really clashed. Maybe I was just a lot like him. I have one hell of a temper, and don't let people walk on me, or mess with my family. I noticed, I do dwell on certain things too. I feel that I have become a good person, even with my flaws. Everyone out there has a flaw whether they admit to it or not.
With this situation going on right now, someone who is important to me is facing an uncertain future. I don't know what is going to happen, and I am afraid. I am angry, and scared. Fall was supposed to be great this year. My brother just arrived back home from Iraq, my youngest son will be having his first Halloween, and it was just supposed to be fun. Now, it's destroyed. All because a spoiled brat didn't get what she wanted for her birthday, so she came up with an outrageous lie. It is truly ashame how kids are becoming these days. If I were to lie like this as a kid, I would have been so guilt stricken. I would never have lied like this. How do you lie about something so serious? I am just in disbelief, I'm angry, OUTRAGED! I've rambled on enough. Hopefully I will have a good update to post later, not a bad one, but I am afraid that everything is heading for the bad.
Wednesday, October 15, 2008
Tuesday, October 14, 2008
The Girl Diet.......
We have 3 handsome, perfect baby boys, who we love with all our hearts. In our eyes there couldn't be 3 cuter kids in this world then our baby boys.
But my husband and I are still wanting a daughter. I found a web page a while back during my 3rd pregnancy called In-Gender.com. It has all these different ways to sway for a boy, or girl. I figured I'd post the "girl diet". I got this off the In-Gender forums. Brad told me we will do what ever it takes to have our baby girl. Of course the natural way, none of the High tech stuff that you have to pay for.
So, I am going to start this girl diet thing, and do it for a while. We aren't planning on having another baby for a while, but I figured I'd get used to that type of diet. Maybe it will work if I'm on it for a long time. It will be hard to get used to. Take a look:
THE GIRL DIET
Daily recommended supps Calcium 800mg, Magnesium 300mg, Vitamin D
Daily Fluid Intake Must be 2-2 1/2 liters (8-10 glasses) This is very important for proper calcium absorption
DIETARY GUIDELINES
Milk Products : Drink 750 ml milk daily. Include 2 milk products such as yogurt & custard daily
Eggs: Allowed
Cheese: Small serves cottage cheese. 1 dessert spn of Parmesan cheese twice a week
Drinks
Tea & Coffee: Basically forbidden but one cup only of either is acceptable. It must be very weak!
Mineral Water: Evian, Perrier (all other brands are too high in pot/sodium)
Wine: An Occasional drink allowed (150ml)
Meat (maximum 130g per day)
Lamb: 1 midloin chop(large) or 1 chump chop(medium) or 1 forequarter chop
Beef: 1 piece oyster blade (med) or 1/2 t-bone steak or 1pce eye fillet (2.5cm thick)
Pork: 1 butterfly steak or 1 midloin (med)
Chicken: 1 breast & meat from 1 drumstick
Fish: Must be cooked in a 'court bouillon' ie poached in 500ml water, a little wine & herbs.. discard liquid to serve...reduces natural salt content
Bread: Must be low salt content (less than 1%), white has less potassium, salt free crisp bread or crackers
Pasta: Permitted without restriction if prepared without forbidden ingredients
Rice: brown or white permitted
Cereals: Semolina, Tapioca, Cous cous, Corn flour, plain wheat flour (not SR), puffed rice
Vegetables: Maximum allowance 150g daily
Allowed: fresh or frozen carrots, green beans, turnips, onion, leeks, peas, cucumbers, radishes, green/red peppers, cress, celery,eggplant, fresh asparagus
Potatoes Not to be eaten more than 3 times per week
Fruit: maximum allowance 150g daily
May be fresh frozen or canned...small apple 110g, pear (med) 170g, raspberries 1/2 cup 50g, strawberries large 15-20g each
Tinned ONLY (not fresh) & without syrup...pineapple, plums,peaches
Nuts: unsalted walnuts, hazelnuts, almonds, peanuts
Sweet Foods
Jams: Not more than once a day, only one desertspn
Sugar/Honey:Restrict as much as possible as too much sugar interferes with calcium absorption
Concession: 1 orange & 1 lemon per week
Herbs: Allspice, aniseed, bay leaves, cloves, chives, chervil, chili,coriander,cilantro,cumin, garlic, horseradish,juniper,marjoram, mint, paprika, parsley,saffron, sage, thyme, tumeric
Miscellaneous: Vegetable oils, pepper, spices, mustard, gelatin, homemade sauces without salt or forbidden ingredients
Cooking Tips: Do not use a salt substitute...everything must be cooked without salt. Onions, garlic, pepper & spices can be used to improve the flavor of food.
FORBIDDEN FOODS
Drinks: coffee, tea,chocolate, mineral waters(except those permitted), cordial, fresh or tinned juice, fizzy drinks, wine, beer, cola, cider, liqueurs, apertifs
Meat: all small goods including smoked meats
Fish: fish fingers, smoked, dried or salted fish, tinned fish,shellfish, prawns,anchovies, caviar
Cheese:all forbidden (high salt)
Bread/ pastries: white, wholemeal, rye bread, milk loaf, fruit loaf, crisp breads, croissants, buns,bought biscuits, cakes, ice cream, quiches, pizzas
Fresh fruit: Pineapples, plums, peaches, apricots, cherries, bananas, oranges,melons, lemons, grapefruit, red currants, grapes, fruit juices
Dried fruit: apricots, dates, figs, raisins, chestnuts, sultanas, prunes, coconut, currants
Vegetables: sweet corn, flat leaf continental parsley,spinach, cabbage, mushrooms, endive, avocado, fennel, raw tomatoes, soya beans,pumpkin, split peas,broad beans, lentils, haricot beans
Sweets: chocolates, lollies
Salt: of any description
Chemical raising agents, bicarb soda, effervescent drugs
Soups from sachet or tins, stock cubes
Tomato paste, sauce, bottled mayonnaise or other sauces
Tinned fresh or frozen ready made meal
Jelly
Salted or slightly salted butter or margarine
Olives, gherkins, marinades, pickles, popcorn
UNDERSTANDING YOUR DIET
It is important that you understand the principles which form the basis of this diet. Essentially it requires you to eat foods that are rich in calcium & magnesium but low in potassium & sodium. This must be strictly adhered to if you are to gain maximum benefit from it.
Why are these restrictions necessary?
Tea,Coffee & Alcohol
Each cup of tea or coffee causes you to lose calcium from your body. Alcohol with its diuretic effect also causes the kidneys to excrete more calcium than they would normally
Chocolate: This is very high in potassium & contains oxalate's which bind with calcium & make it unusable
Wheat Bran: This contains phytates which also rob the body of calcium. For eg., for every 100g of bran that is eaten the body loses 350 mg calcium
Meat: Restricted because of its high protein content. If you eat more than 120g protein a day you begin to enter a dietary range where the protein will cause calcium loss.
Sugar: Heavy intake of sugar will cause you to lose calcium through excess excretion. It is recommended that you keep your sugar intake to less than 60 g per day
Important Facts To Note
Always drink 8-10 glasses of water per day. It is important to drink this amount as it will help the body to dissolve & to absorb the increased calcium that is being taken in, whether from food or supplements. Calcium cannot be absorbed well or excreted safely without water.
Do not attempt this diet if you suffer from poor kidney function .This could result in kidney stones due to the increased calcium intake.
Commence the diet & mineral supplements 6 -10 weeks before a planned conception.
It must be stressed that the diet should only be undertaken with careful medical or naturopath supervision. It is recommended to have a check up before starting & to continue regular check ups whilst on the diet to ensure that excessive electrolyte imbalance is avoided.
This diet was extracted from "the girl diet", an e-book purchased from Sue Roebuck, a natural fertility naturopath in Australia.
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Well, thats it. I don't know how true any of it is. All I know is I plan on trying it. I've got nothing to lose. It sounds pretty healthy really. The hardest part will be cutting out sodium, and sugar. I sugar everything, and I mean everything down! My husband yells at me for it. Caffeine isn't a problem, since I already have no caffeine.
But my husband and I are still wanting a daughter. I found a web page a while back during my 3rd pregnancy called In-Gender.com. It has all these different ways to sway for a boy, or girl. I figured I'd post the "girl diet". I got this off the In-Gender forums. Brad told me we will do what ever it takes to have our baby girl. Of course the natural way, none of the High tech stuff that you have to pay for.
So, I am going to start this girl diet thing, and do it for a while. We aren't planning on having another baby for a while, but I figured I'd get used to that type of diet. Maybe it will work if I'm on it for a long time. It will be hard to get used to. Take a look:
THE GIRL DIET
Daily recommended supps Calcium 800mg, Magnesium 300mg, Vitamin D
Daily Fluid Intake Must be 2-2 1/2 liters (8-10 glasses) This is very important for proper calcium absorption
DIETARY GUIDELINES
Milk Products : Drink 750 ml milk daily. Include 2 milk products such as yogurt & custard daily
Eggs: Allowed
Cheese: Small serves cottage cheese. 1 dessert spn of Parmesan cheese twice a week
Drinks
Tea & Coffee: Basically forbidden but one cup only of either is acceptable. It must be very weak!
Mineral Water: Evian, Perrier (all other brands are too high in pot/sodium)
Wine: An Occasional drink allowed (150ml)
Meat (maximum 130g per day)
Lamb: 1 midloin chop(large) or 1 chump chop(medium) or 1 forequarter chop
Beef: 1 piece oyster blade (med) or 1/2 t-bone steak or 1pce eye fillet (2.5cm thick)
Pork: 1 butterfly steak or 1 midloin (med)
Chicken: 1 breast & meat from 1 drumstick
Fish: Must be cooked in a 'court bouillon' ie poached in 500ml water, a little wine & herbs.. discard liquid to serve...reduces natural salt content
Bread: Must be low salt content (less than 1%), white has less potassium, salt free crisp bread or crackers
Pasta: Permitted without restriction if prepared without forbidden ingredients
Rice: brown or white permitted
Cereals: Semolina, Tapioca, Cous cous, Corn flour, plain wheat flour (not SR), puffed rice
Vegetables: Maximum allowance 150g daily
Allowed: fresh or frozen carrots, green beans, turnips, onion, leeks, peas, cucumbers, radishes, green/red peppers, cress, celery,eggplant, fresh asparagus
Potatoes Not to be eaten more than 3 times per week
Fruit: maximum allowance 150g daily
May be fresh frozen or canned...small apple 110g, pear (med) 170g, raspberries 1/2 cup 50g, strawberries large 15-20g each
Tinned ONLY (not fresh) & without syrup...pineapple, plums,peaches
Nuts: unsalted walnuts, hazelnuts, almonds, peanuts
Sweet Foods
Jams: Not more than once a day, only one desertspn
Sugar/Honey:Restrict as much as possible as too much sugar interferes with calcium absorption
Concession: 1 orange & 1 lemon per week
Herbs: Allspice, aniseed, bay leaves, cloves, chives, chervil, chili,coriander,cilantro,cumin, garlic, horseradish,juniper,marjoram, mint, paprika, parsley,saffron, sage, thyme, tumeric
Miscellaneous: Vegetable oils, pepper, spices, mustard, gelatin, homemade sauces without salt or forbidden ingredients
Cooking Tips: Do not use a salt substitute...everything must be cooked without salt. Onions, garlic, pepper & spices can be used to improve the flavor of food.
FORBIDDEN FOODS
Drinks: coffee, tea,chocolate, mineral waters(except those permitted), cordial, fresh or tinned juice, fizzy drinks, wine, beer, cola, cider, liqueurs, apertifs
Meat: all small goods including smoked meats
Fish: fish fingers, smoked, dried or salted fish, tinned fish,shellfish, prawns,anchovies, caviar
Cheese:all forbidden (high salt)
Bread/ pastries: white, wholemeal, rye bread, milk loaf, fruit loaf, crisp breads, croissants, buns,bought biscuits, cakes, ice cream, quiches, pizzas
Fresh fruit: Pineapples, plums, peaches, apricots, cherries, bananas, oranges,melons, lemons, grapefruit, red currants, grapes, fruit juices
Dried fruit: apricots, dates, figs, raisins, chestnuts, sultanas, prunes, coconut, currants
Vegetables: sweet corn, flat leaf continental parsley,spinach, cabbage, mushrooms, endive, avocado, fennel, raw tomatoes, soya beans,pumpkin, split peas,broad beans, lentils, haricot beans
Sweets: chocolates, lollies
Salt: of any description
Chemical raising agents, bicarb soda, effervescent drugs
Soups from sachet or tins, stock cubes
Tomato paste, sauce, bottled mayonnaise or other sauces
Tinned fresh or frozen ready made meal
Jelly
Salted or slightly salted butter or margarine
Olives, gherkins, marinades, pickles, popcorn
UNDERSTANDING YOUR DIET
It is important that you understand the principles which form the basis of this diet. Essentially it requires you to eat foods that are rich in calcium & magnesium but low in potassium & sodium. This must be strictly adhered to if you are to gain maximum benefit from it.
Why are these restrictions necessary?
Tea,Coffee & Alcohol
Each cup of tea or coffee causes you to lose calcium from your body. Alcohol with its diuretic effect also causes the kidneys to excrete more calcium than they would normally
Chocolate: This is very high in potassium & contains oxalate's which bind with calcium & make it unusable
Wheat Bran: This contains phytates which also rob the body of calcium. For eg., for every 100g of bran that is eaten the body loses 350 mg calcium
Meat: Restricted because of its high protein content. If you eat more than 120g protein a day you begin to enter a dietary range where the protein will cause calcium loss.
Sugar: Heavy intake of sugar will cause you to lose calcium through excess excretion. It is recommended that you keep your sugar intake to less than 60 g per day
Important Facts To Note
Always drink 8-10 glasses of water per day. It is important to drink this amount as it will help the body to dissolve & to absorb the increased calcium that is being taken in, whether from food or supplements. Calcium cannot be absorbed well or excreted safely without water.
Do not attempt this diet if you suffer from poor kidney function .This could result in kidney stones due to the increased calcium intake.
Commence the diet & mineral supplements 6 -10 weeks before a planned conception.
It must be stressed that the diet should only be undertaken with careful medical or naturopath supervision. It is recommended to have a check up before starting & to continue regular check ups whilst on the diet to ensure that excessive electrolyte imbalance is avoided.
This diet was extracted from "the girl diet", an e-book purchased from Sue Roebuck, a natural fertility naturopath in Australia.
* * * * * * * * * * *
Well, thats it. I don't know how true any of it is. All I know is I plan on trying it. I've got nothing to lose. It sounds pretty healthy really. The hardest part will be cutting out sodium, and sugar. I sugar everything, and I mean everything down! My husband yells at me for it. Caffeine isn't a problem, since I already have no caffeine.
Saturday, October 11, 2008
He is Home!
Just a quick update, to let everyone know my big brother is finally home! Unfortunately, I am not able to go visit with him today though, because not only am I very sick, but all my kids are as well. It really sucks! I have almost totally lost my voice, and dealing with 3 little boys by yourself is hard when you can't talk! I really wish my hubby was home. Six more hours until he will come home, I can't wait!
Wednesday, October 8, 2008
They grow up to fast
It hit me that my youngest is already 7 months old. I look at Dustin as the little baby. Dustin is not little by any means, but I see him as the lil baby. I just can't get over how all this time has flown right by. I honestly feel like I just had Dustin a few months ago. It's amazing how fast this time has gone. My oldest is now 3, my middle son is 2 and Dustin is 7 months now. Here are some pictures of how much they've all changed.. I'll start with Bradley, then Parker, and finally my baby Dusty.
Bradley Then
Bradley now
Parker then
Parker now (ignore his dirty face, he wouldn't let me wipe him off!)
Dustin then..
Dustin now.
Bradley Then
Bradley now
Parker then
Parker now (ignore his dirty face, he wouldn't let me wipe him off!)
Dustin then..
Dustin now.
I really started thinking about how fast they've grown today, while sorting through all the baby cloths that Dustin has outgrown. I was supposed to put aside things that I could get rid of. What ended up happening is me packing away all the tiny baby cloths. Every single outfit just made me remember holding my tiny babies in those cloths.
Anyway, we do plan on having at least one more baby. Even if we do luck out and end up with a little girl some day, she can wear blue. She'll just have to wear a matching bow.
Ugh! How is it that, already, I'm getting baby fever.. I guess that's why our kids are all so close in age.
Don't anyone worry, this time around, Dustin has to be at least 18 months old. He'll probably be older then that by time we start trying for number 4. All that sorting through baby cloths just made me miss the tiny baby stage. Brad keeps saying how he wants a baby girl too.. Maybe one day.
Anyway, we do plan on having at least one more baby. Even if we do luck out and end up with a little girl some day, she can wear blue. She'll just have to wear a matching bow.
Ugh! How is it that, already, I'm getting baby fever.. I guess that's why our kids are all so close in age.
Don't anyone worry, this time around, Dustin has to be at least 18 months old. He'll probably be older then that by time we start trying for number 4. All that sorting through baby cloths just made me miss the tiny baby stage. Brad keeps saying how he wants a baby girl too.. Maybe one day.
Monday, October 6, 2008
Home coming & Birthday
Yesterday, October 5th was Bradley's 3rd Birthday. Daddy, mommy, and mom-mom celebrated on October 4th with a cake, and his presents. Then on Bradley's official birthday pop-pop, mom-mom, mommy, and all the boys went to the rain forest cafe.
When we were getting ready to leave, the phone rang! It was the phone tree, telling us that my brother was on a plane heading to a base not to far from home. He will be stationed there until he's released, and comes home.
That night when all the boys were going to bed, after a long, fun day, the phone rang again. This time I answered, it was James! He told me he's at the base now, and sounded really happy. No more Iraq!! Now in about 14 days James will be home to stay. We are all so happy. So, Bradley's Birthday was a great day. Not only did our first baby turn the big 3, but my brother is out of Iraq.
When we were getting ready to leave, the phone rang! It was the phone tree, telling us that my brother was on a plane heading to a base not to far from home. He will be stationed there until he's released, and comes home.
That night when all the boys were going to bed, after a long, fun day, the phone rang again. This time I answered, it was James! He told me he's at the base now, and sounded really happy. No more Iraq!! Now in about 14 days James will be home to stay. We are all so happy. So, Bradley's Birthday was a great day. Not only did our first baby turn the big 3, but my brother is out of Iraq.
Sunday, October 5, 2008
Rain Forrest Cafe
For Bradley's Birthday on October 5th my mom and dad took Bradley, myself, and his brothers to the Rain Forrest Cafe. It was a blast! The boys all really enjoyed it. Dustin sat in a high chair and was amazed by the gorilla's. We had a great seat next to a big fish tank, and near the gorilla's. We were also close to the big water fountain. Bradley and Parker were both real quiet at first, but then opened up and really took it all in. Bradley told me he liked the water fall, and fish the most!
The thunder storms that occur in the restaurant frightened both Bradley, and Parker, the first few times. After the initial shock of thunder and lightning in the restaurant the boys were ok.
For dessert Bradley got a Volcano. I have a picture I'm adding to this so everyone can see. The Volcano came with a sparkler in it and a candle. The employee's all came out saying "Volcano" and then sang happy birthday to Bradley. Bradley tried so hard not to smile! This dessert was so huge, it was impossible for just my parents, myself, and the older boys to eat it all.
We are definitely going back for Parker's 3rd Birthday!
Ok, so here are the pictures. The first picture is the life like gorilla's that moved.
Below is just one of the many fish tanks. This is the fish tank we were sitting next to.
Below is the Volcano dessert!
Below is Parker looking pretty mad.
Dustin looking around.
The elephants! Very life like.
The big fish tank.
The boys with (my parents) pop-pop and mom-mom.
Parker smiling
Happy boys!
Wednesday, October 1, 2008
Just a few thoughts
Today is the day my brother should be on his way home from Iraq!! He was scheduled to start moving Oct 1st so he should be on his way home soon. Everyone is excited for him to finally be home. I will just be relieved once he's back, no more worrying whether he's ok over there.
Also it's only 4 days until our first baby turns 3!!! Brad reminded me this morning and asked where the time has gone. It seems like it flies by before you even know it. It's amazing how much Bradley has changed throughout these 3 years. He has become a very smart and sweet little boy.
Above is a picture of Bradley at 3 weeks. He was wearing a preemie sleeper in this picture. Bradley was so tiny.
Bradley loved his teddy bear
Above: daddy was helping Bradley walk.
Such a cute smile
Also it's only 4 days until our first baby turns 3!!! Brad reminded me this morning and asked where the time has gone. It seems like it flies by before you even know it. It's amazing how much Bradley has changed throughout these 3 years. He has become a very smart and sweet little boy.
Above is a picture of Bradley at 3 weeks. He was wearing a preemie sleeper in this picture. Bradley was so tiny.
Bradley loved his teddy bear
Above: daddy was helping Bradley walk.
Such a cute smile
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